Liberty and Justice for All

Equality is pretty important to me. Particularly marriage equality. I'm pretty bummed about the decision made by the state I currently reside in to take the ability to marry away from certain people here. I have wrestled with the idea of not getting married at all until everyone I know and love can marry the person they choose. I still have a very hard time with the idea that I can marry the love of my life but some of my friends and family can't. I am happy, however, that the state I was born and raised in, the state where we will be getting our marriage license and saying our vows, does recognize same-sex marriage. For this reason, it is very important for me to somehow incorporate this into our vows. I love that this couple (also married in Massachusetts) did just that -

"As we gather here to solidify the commitment of Tim and Rebecca to each other, we would also like to celebrate the fact that Massachusetts has lead the way in extending the rights and privileges of marriage to everyone, regardless of sexual orientation. It moves us one step closer to fulfilling our nation's promise to provide liberty and justice for all."

I may have to steal (ur..borrow) this line for our officiant's introduction.

The Epic, Rad and Awesome

So after the very upsetting results of Prop 8 I decided that I no longer wanted to get "married" or have a "wedding." Instead we would be have an "epic, rad and awesome."

You are cordially invited to our epic, rad and awesome!

Well, the other day I told McG that we shouldn't get married. Actually, I had been up all night thinking about it and making myself sick with worry. I'm not sure what about the traditional wedding I'm not into. I have a little bit of social anxiety and sometimes can't be in large crowds. The idea of standing in front of all those people and exchanging very personal sentiments with my beloved kind of scares the crap out of me. And then being the center of attention all day/night? Not my style.

So I said to McG, we shouldn't get married. I said, "You don't want a wedding, you want a reunion." (This is half true. We have many friends distributed all over the country so getting them together would be spectacular.) "And I don't need a wedding to prove that I'm going to be with you forever. I already know that I'm going to be with you forever. I've already made a commitment to you."

Then he told me I was full of it and he liked the idea of getting married, blah blah blah.

But I refuse to call it a wedding. From now on it is The Reunion.

Also, I hate the word bride so if you have any suggestions for another word that would be stellar!

{photo via Unicorn Diaries}