tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post8649406560082233637..comments2023-07-21T07:45:43.841-07:00Comments on Veiled Vows: Eff Your Gripes{un}Veiled Vowshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17878853101615108451noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-42740978841981744012010-05-17T16:24:42.375-07:002010-05-17T16:24:42.375-07:00we were really concerned about people feeling obli...we were really concerned about people feeling obligated to come to our wedding so we went ahead and had it on a monday. amazing decision! everything was cheaper, everyone who was there (with maybe one exception) was there for all of the right reasons.YEAH!https://www.blogger.com/profile/15338552079938981996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-81551056507465936152010-05-05T06:50:33.763-07:002010-05-05T06:50:33.763-07:00Alissa - Even if you agree with the general advice...Alissa - Even if you agree with the general advice given in this article, do you feel that the author's tone is appropriate? I do not - it sounds much less like helpful advice and more like snark and spite to me. <br /><br />Reading words such as "stinks," "sucks," "boring," "terrible," and "pissed" with context anywhere near a loving event like a wedding (and the thought that some people might associate these words with my upcoming wedding) makes me feel queasy.Kerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09431830624497683795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-81518268253270396332010-05-05T06:11:18.808-07:002010-05-05T06:11:18.808-07:00wow. I am speechless and a bit breathless from all...wow. I am speechless and a bit breathless from all the rage I'm feeling. A title labeled "You're Boring Us" ?! I don't understand how this cannot be a satirical piece, no one would really write these things. right? right?<br /><br />This article can go shove itself...along with the emails I get from the Knot "Reception Must Haves". No, no Knot, there are no hard and true "must haves" other than the two people saying "I do" and someone to say "You are".SMKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12146785833753763163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-60735995957478395602010-05-04T22:52:04.087-07:002010-05-04T22:52:04.087-07:00I'm totally not saying don't throw a wild,...I'm totally not saying don't throw a wild, crazy good time party. I mean if we WEREN'T planning on throwing a bad ass party we would just go to the court house, no? I just think that the people who matter will have a blast whether you spend $2000 or $200,000 or if you have an iPod or a funk band or if you get married on the 4th of July or on a random Tuesday.{un}Veiled Vowshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17878853101615108451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-70365310833625874082010-05-04T21:26:42.579-07:002010-05-04T21:26:42.579-07:00I usually agree with everything that you write, bu...I usually agree with everything that you write, but I don't actually have much of a problem with many of the things on this list. It's not like the usual Knot warnings about how your wedding will be a failure without uplighting; it's about being a good host. Our weddings are, obviously, first and foremost about getting married and sharing that very important moment with the people you care about most. But they are also a giant party, maybe the largest we will ever throw. Being a good host and thinking about your guests' comfort and enjoyment isn't buying into the lies of the Wedding Industrial Complex, it's just what you should do. Some of the details about restaurant-quality meals and whatnot are bullshit, but the gist of it is pretty spot-on. The points about ensuring your guests' basic needs are met and spending on what makes a good party (food, booze if you're having it, music, etc.) and not the details that are ultimately trivial (decor) are particularly important. Of course, probably no one who's going to be an asshole about it is invited anyway, but don't we owe it to the people who are coming to have a wonderful party, whatever shape it may take?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-60210372312675300382010-05-04T17:23:42.728-07:002010-05-04T17:23:42.728-07:00Seriously, I could not agree more. Yes, you may n...Seriously, I could not agree more. Yes, you may not enjoy a long speech or agree with my culinary choices but you must understand we are not all the same people. <br /><br />I don't go to weddings of people I do not care about. What is the point. I go to weddings to feel the love and have fun. If you cannot do this, don't go to weddings!<br /><br />Gah!!!anna and the ringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13061035220548972874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-83800640286516366992010-05-04T16:17:43.338-07:002010-05-04T16:17:43.338-07:00that list is one of the tackiest things i have eve...that list is one of the tackiest things i have ever read.Teahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13522944882705490856noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-52960179115187871482010-05-04T15:31:20.155-07:002010-05-04T15:31:20.155-07:00I totally agree on the "vacations" thing...I totally agree on the "vacations" thing. If people have things they'd rather be doing, that's less catering for me to worry about. I mean, to a degree: I'm not planning my wedding on a day that's going to make it difficult for our immediate families to attend. But Memorial Day? Really? Someone else's cookout sounds more fun than my wedding reception? Then go right ahead. <br /><br />Oh the other hand, reading over the complete list, if a bride broke every one of those rules, that would not be cool either. It is about balance.Amberdawnhttp://ambers-wedding.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-36182972649948599902010-05-04T13:54:00.164-07:002010-05-04T13:54:00.164-07:00Funny how most of these "gripes" can be ...Funny how most of these "gripes" can be solved by spending MORE money! I wonder what The Knot stands to gain by perpetrating the idea that weddings need to be big, expensive, stress-filled, and marked by food that is "as good as something we'd have at a restaurant," free-flowing booze and endless entertainment. <br /><br />Hmmmm.....<br /><br />Fuck The Knot. Seriously.Michelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1687730204728712291.post-22293424413000389412010-05-04T13:41:03.143-07:002010-05-04T13:41:03.143-07:00Um wow, the writer sounds like she has no clue. Th...Um wow, the writer sounds like she has no clue. The entire article completely misses the boat — guess all she cares about is having fun, and not about the fact that a marriage is being created. Glad I'm not a friend or family member of hers.<br /><br />We are contemplating having our wedding on a holiday weekend. If guests would rather go on vacay then be with us, then I don't want them at our wedding anyways. I want my wedding to be filled with people who care about our union, not what is the most fun thing to do.Ms. Bunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06985820953743653787noreply@blogger.com